Pan or lesbian? Background info of me - 32f Asian femme looking. I dated men since early 20s but never go pass the kissing stage bc it feels weird. I attempted dating men again in mid 20s, maybe bc of pressure of society. Realised I’m queer in late 20s. First formal relationship is with a woman then we broke up. Now I’m back in dating game again. I feel like I’m romantically attracted to women but sexually women and men (although never had sex with men). OLD is the one way to date unfortunately as I don’t have a large social circle.

I worry men on dating apps swipe me bc I’m young ish Asian woman or fall into the stereotype. Similarly I don’t really get many matches with women. Some POC chatted about it as with local dating ground (aus), POC are not in favour unfortunately.

Now I am questioning who I really am. I don’t know how to say it a man attractive. Some of them are physically appealing. My measurement atm is to see if they decide to kiss or have sex, would it be comfortable with it. Never thought I would be more confused once I’m out. Lol.