I’ve gone through all of the posts here about dating white women and I feel like a lot of the experiences are overwhelmingly US based (although white people are white people everywhere.).

I’m a baby gay and the place I am in the uk is overwhelmingly white. Like I have NEVER come across a black or qwoc on any dating apps and when encountered with one they don’t even want to speak or connect? Which I find weird.

I do have a very bad outlook and relationship with white people. This really might sounds bad but it’s even to the point where I don’t really find white women that attractive. When I’m not in a really deep anger about whiteness, I can totally plan dates and go on dates with some sweeter chicks I speak to on dating apps but that almost out of desperation to explore my queerness.

Idk, I’m being rather blunt about the whole thing, but I feel like I’m at my wits end with the issue simply because I really am craving that closeness and experience with women, however, I’m battling with the complete hatred of whiteness and having to deal with possible racism and stuff. Idk.

I know I’m not that alone, but I also feel it? I want to date and love and experience queerness, but it feels like there’s an added layer to my experience that’s hard to battle.

So I added dating outside my race as a black women in the title too because I also sometimes feel hostility from queer women who aren’t white but aren’t black. I’m sort of stuck in the middle of the issue you know?