I just need to vent, but I would love to hear some perspectives!

Ok, so my city is small, but has a decent queer community. I recently moved back (I lived there for a year to make money, found a job in another state, didn’t work out so I’m back here) and I decided to overcome my anxiety and actually make some friends. I’ve started to go out to parties, and met some people and even started to date someone, but the more I hang out in these spaces, the weirder it feels.

The queer community is incredibly white. I’m Cree & Ojibwe (Indigenous) and the community is 95% white which statistically doesn’t make sense because half the town is Hispanic (I even looked it up!) and there’s a college here specifically for Indigenous art that brings a lot of Native people here. My younger sister has tried really hard to be part of the community but completely gave up after having some spats with some of the more popular queers here.

I started to date a very lovely poly trans woman (also POC), but I found it kinda weird that her entire polycule is white and her entire friend group is white (besides a few people). I don’t want to judge, but honestly, people who don’t have a diverse group of friends (especially in a diverse area) are a red flag to me. Is that overreacting?

It makes me feel icky that everyone is like “Land Back! BLM! Etc, etc!”, but where are the Black and Indigenous people here?? Why is everyone so white?? There’s an entire ass college filled with Native students, but I don’t see them at all at drag nights or queer parties. My sister’s ex-roommate is all woke or whatever, but she doesn’t have a single POC friend and acted weird when my sister brought over her POC friends. Not to mention all of the weird transgressions we get. I went to a party with my sister once and some girl came up to us and said we laugh too loud. I'm sorry??? Is this not a party?? Other people were way louder than we were!

I’m not sure what I should do… I’m trying to go on dating apps and looking for friends there, but I really, really wish there were more people like me I could meet…. I want Native queer friends so badly!! I tried to talk about this to some of my white friends, but they seriously don’t get it at all… Idk, I'm just frustrated..