I am a kinky college student (20) looking for some advice about PFM dating while still figuring out what I enjoy and lifestyle is right for me. I have gotten some great advice from Redditors.

I basically LOVE the concept of PFM dating. I have been dating my current boyfriend for about a year and a half. He is 21 and figured out his submissive nature a few years ago. He is pussy-free (no sex) for almost two years. He is NOT a virgin. We have explored some kinks like chastity and prostate milking. He's getting closer to wearing his cage (CB-6000) consistently. He's making a really good effort. We have not had as much luck with milking, but he has been able to work up to about a week between orgasms after a year of consistent effort and very few mistakes.

- I have read different things about chastity. I struggle to tell what is fantasy and what people are actually doing. Is wearing a cage 24/7, with occasional unlocking for cleaning/release, a truly realistic option?

- Does anybody have any thoughts about the best release methods in the long run? He likes to cum lots of different ways, but I am specifically interested in methods that will help us strengthen our dynamic over time. Not just like instant gratification.

- What are others' experiences with day to day issues like if/when you share a bed, if/when he should get to see me naked, and so on? We live in dorms... so it's not a huge issue today, but something I am considering for next year when we might get an apartment.

- Is PFM a realistic option for the long run? Have others had children while maintaining PFM?

- I like to play with other men, but I am really struggling with the concept of watching. I know he wants to watch. I want him to have fun. I am just really struggling with it. Any thoughts?

- A lot of what I read seems focused on couples in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. Does anybody have specific advice or resources for PFM for young couples?

- I have some kinky friends. I have some friends in open relationships. I am also having some trouble explaining things in a reasonable way. I can explain it as open and that works fine if somebody sees me out with a different guy (small campus and town!), but it does not feel like a very authentic way to explain with my friends.

Sorry for such a long post. I really like this group's culture where everybody helps everybody!!