I’m looking for advice on my situation. Being PF is a very strong fantasy for me but I also have reservations.

Currently my wife and I have a good vanilla sex life and enjoy PIV. A few years ago we also opened our relationship for her to cuck me (my idea). I have strong humiliation and denial kinks and we played with those in the beginning. It was the most intense sex we’d ever had but I also struggled with it emotionally outside the bedroom and we had to take a break from it.

My wife also has a steady boyfriend that she met around the same time we opened up, and does not desire any other partners. Considering he doesn’t live that close to us and my wife enjoys PIV, I never felt like being PF was a possibility. However, he is going to live nearby us soon and I feel like could reasonably bring this fantasy up to my wife now.

Although I’ve done a lot of therapy and grown since we started, I’m still nervous about bringing this up to my wife. I envision trying PF for a set period of time and seeing how it goes, but fear that we wouldn’t be able to go back to the way things were before if I can’t handle it.

In your experience is this kink something you can “try out” or dabble in occasionally, or is it really an all or nothing kind of commitment?