I originally stared with this lifestyle due to my vaginismus but opted to keep it once that was mostly cured. Since my boyfriend was a virgin we thought it was more fun to keep it to preserve his virginity and because once we would start to do it we can't take it back. It was something we we were used to and it was more convenient too.

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We plan to get married next year and then start a family. We can either use that to stop this lifestyle and have a natural point to start having penetrative sex or we can keep going like we are now. We're not completely sure what we want to do but we have some time before we need to make a final decision. In terms of conceiving I have read stories on the vaginismus board of couples that have done it through other means like putting in the sperm with a finger or with a sort of special syringe for just that purpose. I don't want to fetishize the whole situation but it's more that once we start having penetrative sex the whole dynamic might change.

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Just so we have all options on the table I want to know how viable that is. I did ask this question on the vaginismus board before on a previous account but since hasn't really been a vaginismus issue for years now for us I would like to know if anyone have actually done this route without a medical necessity.