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Assuming all else equal including: the individual is living in a decent socio-economic environment and good upbrining such as a middle class American household, no physical deformities and no intellectual disabilities.
Firstly, the idea that genetics doesnt impact one's ability to socialise, make friends, find partners, stable employment and be able to integrate into society is so insanely ignorant that its rather hilarious. Im going to break it down into 2 sections: appearance based genetics and neurotypicality
Appearance: I really dont want to have to explain this, but sicne there will always be those poeple who dont believe in this, here it goes. if you were born attractive, tall, etc. or just generally fit into conventions of what society thinks is attractive, the halo effect will proivde you a medium to easily and almost involuntarily integrate into society (assuming you are neurotypical). No significant "self improvement" is necessarily required to be able to form relationships with frineds or romantic connections, outside of perhaps basic things such as grooming and hygeine. I genuinely believe attractive neurotypicals have the higheist potential chance of having a good life outcome in terms of normative societal expectations in the form of frined, work and romantic partners due to the halo effect allowing them to naturally, seeminglessly integrate into society. It is much more difficult for unattractive neurotypicals but still doable due to the use of TRP and self improvement. So in conclusion appearnace matters significantly, but assuming neurotypicality, those on the lower end of the appearnace spectrum still have a decent chance at integrating into society via TRP.
Neurotypicality: this is the big one. Individuals who fail to meet neurotypical brain structure and are cursed with diseases such as ADHD, mild autism, etc. have it the hardest in life (once again, assuming we are only talking about people without physical or intellectual disabiliteis). Mild autism is especially the big killer of one's chances at integrating into society as no amount of learning or self improvement is capable of restructuring one's brain. Sure you can learn to pick up socail cues, change your tone of voice, act more normal, etc. but such masking is so heavily destructive of one's mental health that it can lead to autistic burnout, depression and anxiety, further causing issues in being able to socially integrate. Neurotypicals can sense mild autism and neurodivergence within 10 seconds of speaking to a mildly autistic person as the neurotypical brain is designed to weed out potentially antisocial and mentally incompatible people from the gene pool. Any slight deviations away from expected social behaviour is EXTREMELY looked down upon and can lead to mildly autistic people being infantilised, not treated with repsect or downright accused of behaviours such as stalking or being "creepy". Your ability to socially integrate is essentially taken away from you which is why: 80-90% of HFA college grads are unemployed or underemployed, 1/10 HFAs kill themselves, around 90% of marraiges involving a NT and ND person end up in divorce, and the fertility rate of autisic men and women are 0.2 and 0.4 respectively - its almost as if NTs are trying to weed out mildly autistic people and prevent them from reproducing and tainting hte gene pool.
Now what about the other determiner? Individual effort??? Can a person born at the very low end of hte genetic pool who is both physically unattractive and is mildly autistic be capable of integrating into society? I feel like they can. But they will need support. IMMENSE levels of support. Catching up in yeras of missed social development, assistance in finding work, social skills coaching, etc. Many of us unattractive/mildly autistic folk who could not use the benefits of hte halo effect like attractive/mildly autistic folk are so far behind on social development and our ability to integrate that its almost irrecuperable. Sure huge amuonts of TRP and self imporvemnt can work, but at what cost? Losing your self in the process? Ending up with depression and severe anxiety and burnout?
Wouldnt it just be so simple if I was neurotypical and attractive? So seeminglessly be able to integrate into society without having to put a thought into 'TRP' or 'self improvement'. I would I have integrated into teh flow of life so easily, even if i was just NT and ugly. But mildly autistic and physically unattractive (balding, short, ethnic, ugly face, etc.)? I have been so permenantely damaged from bullying that even looking a girl in the eye now feels like im trying to stab myself.
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