I thought it would be worth just saying that really, in fairness, I have noticed that "pretty privilege" (extending to men/ a specific man being physically attractive/hot/handsome) does operate with both genders and does make a big difference to the "difficulty" of an individual getting results in the dating market or environment.

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I'm 38 and male, have been told all my life that I'm "good looking", "handsome", and "cute" or "hot. Now whilst I'll be the FIRST to tell anyone that having social skills OR social confidence deficits (due to social anxiety... due to adverse childhood experiences) ultimately makes MORE of a difference to someone's aliveness of their overall social life and dating results, really in fairness, I have to say that there HAVE been times when despite me behaving in very socially awkward ways (again, due to trauma and my issues simply "spilling out" largely involuntarily in conversation with a woman I've been conversing with on a first date), there have been times when women have actually been inexplicably nice to me to the point where "something" had to account for that.

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If you're blabbing away about how dysfunctional your immediate family is and the girl you're on a date with a) doesn't make up a thinly veiled excuse to leave like "oh a family emergency came up" or "works needs me last minute... SORRY" and b) EVEN invites you impromptu to see a movie, that's a very fortunate experience really. It's also kind of astonishing if she then... very generously buys you groceries the next catchup. Granted, sometimes you may just be in such a messed up state (emotionally) that really, you're probably BOUND to keep screwing it up/damaging those interactions with that person until really, there's nothing much to salvage anymore. Unless you had a very good (effective, skilled, experienced) COACH which generally costs... a lot of money relatively. Or at least more than you might have at that particular time.

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I could name a LOT of examples but they're all similar enough: women can be very kind when there's REALLY... in all honesty... NOT MUCH REASON TO! Lol. And certainly... no obligation to.

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Food for thought. I just thought it's worth pointing out that for all the whinging (in my perception) a lot of men will go on about with "she didn't appreciate how NICE I WAS to her!!!" or whatever other setbacks might be experienced, really in truth, most women are incredibly kind and warmhearted and really, especially if you're a naturally physically good looking guy, you straight away have even less excuse to learn some conversation skills, get comfortable with being in social situations by actually talking to people in general AND women specifically and also generally learn to "be" more interesting.