Lets put some RP armchair theory crafting back in the PPD.

Female loyalty. It doesn't exist. This is a mistake men make, men value loyalty, its been breed into us. Honor is not just a cultural code, its how we act with our equals. This does not mean men don't do disloyal things but they know they are scum for them and expect to be treated as such if the victim knows.

Female loyalty is really due to niceness. Women are more agreeable psychologically. They won't hurt someone because its "not nice" not because its disloyal.

Functionally its hard to tell the difference, its loyal to stay faithful to your mate, its also nice, the end result seems the same but can explain things like women cheating means they are checking out, they fell for someone else and loyalty doesn't apply. It doesn't register as a concept, they don't think "I made a pledge and this is dishonorable to him" they only go with their feelings which can't be wrong because its feels right. You'll never hear a man say "I don't know why I cheated" but its common in women and while men can't believe it we know why we cheat, and women who never experienced limerence with another while in a committed LTR will not understand it, its common in women. They literally go into a sort of stupid happy brain chemical land, not quite love, but enthralled by infatuation.

Happened to my best friend. Good wife, good man, trusted her completely, cooworker both knew was a creep hit on her hard, she told husband, cooworker was older than him and less attractive, he laughed knowing the guy had no chance and she told him. Nothing to worry about right?

Two years later he learns what female loyalty is worth. He showed me the texts she forgot to delete, the guy was not even good at flirting but he kept grooming her and when she was feeling low about her body (she gained a little weight not a lot) and he kept telling her how sexy she was, boom he makes a move at an office party and she allowed it, 2 weeks later they fucked, friend senses shes different checks texts.

They are still trying to reconcile, took her a couple of months to realize she was just used by the guy for sex (he was married too) and see the grooming for what it was, he wasn't a friend how made a mistake 2 years ago but a guy who changed tactics.

But long story long, he says she can't explain why she didn't think of him or the kids, she said she didn't think of divorce as a thing until he said it when she was caught, she's in a recovery group of some sort and apparently the other middle aged women in it who cheated are very similar. It made no logical sense, but they didn't even think "this is disloyal".

He's told me he would rather she say "I was horny and didn't think you would find out" because he would understand that and accept it, it fits the male mind, but instead its "I don't know why I didn't think of you or the kids or divorce, it seemed like its own thing in its own box and I still loved you".

I don't know if he's going to stay long term or not, he doesn't know but it got me studying this shit in part to help him, he's been a mess as she was as he described his 'foundation" the one person he knew he could trust.

It clicks with RP, and it made sense of things I've seen around me with good people with good jobs and good families going to hell with cheating.

I was top 5% of my class, of the men I still know, I'm the only one still married to the same woman I was then. These were good looking guys, very successful, all divorced for infidelity, two she cheated one he did. One I'm not 100% sure his kids are his, they are blonde and so is he and his ex wife but so was the guy she cheated with. That one went on 6 years apparently. I'm not sure of details on the other guy who's wife cheated, and of the one where he cheated, it was the typical sex bonking the office manager, and got caught by the IRS as he was diverting money from the practice to hide his spending on her from his wife.

Sure you can say "not all women" and you can say "not all men" but the info on cheating is pretty consistent on the women checking out and its not always hypergamy, though I'm sure that helps.

There is a reason why seduction is a mans game, you say "she was seduced" not "he was" very often, and you seduce a man by sexual availability. Loyalty is challenged and many men fail but its rare for a woman to come on full sexual to a guy. You seduce a woman mentally and then she starts to think about opening her legs once those chemicals hit.

And this is for nice women, a good number of women are not very nice, so no natural loyalty, no honor to break but also no desire to be nice and you get a branch swinger who doesn't care.

Disloyal men being motivated by sex, are more likely to stay with their wife (and wives are more likely to not divorce for it).

Women are more likely to catch feels first, and then cheat, and are far more likely to divorce even for "downgrades" because it feels so right it can't be wrong... oh shit... what have I done...

(And before I get the "men leave sick wives" those are the disloyal men, its not about nice its they are not loyal and viewed their relationship as a transaction. Not leaving a sick man is about being "nice". I forgot about this family blurb until now but my brother turned out to be involved with a woman who's husband had cancer. She apparently wasn't happy prior but eventually she broke it off with my brother because she told him she just couldn't leave him while sick (which I would say is due to not being nice, she already had no loyalty) where a guy with no loyalty would be less likely to have that shame of leaving.)

The issue with discussing this sort of thing is not thinking how you feel or what you would do. I can't imagine leaving my wife if she had cancer for example, but men are more likely, of that there is no doubt, opposite applies for finances.

(This long rambling post brought to you be the Scarlet Letter A, a flight delay at MIA, an unlimited data plan, and a bootleg wifi tethering app to avoid the restriction on my phone).