Hi there so I'll keep the personal stuff in private chat as I have a readership but public stuff I'll say here

Everything you need to know about me is on my profile. I write shamelessly and honestly. I'm a tease I like feeding your agony and aches and sweet release.

I'm 32M, single, I'm born and reside in the UK but my parents are from another country originally.

Faith and family, trauma and grief have informed my kinks but I'm not defined by them.

Im intense dedicated empathic and intimate along with streaks of sadism which I have difficulty integrating.

I think the word compassionate cruelty comes to mind.

Will separate this into two sections

Online:

Looking for: a medium term primary submissive to work with and fuel my work. They can't have jealousy and they must have read and felt and understood and related to my work. I have a set of verifications and requirements to take you on as a sub and they are dealbreakers. They're short and more about internal characteristics than anything else. Do you have a curious and interesting mind? Can you be patient and non bratty? Are you caring and not fall in love easily, things like this.

Body type preference: slim. But as mentioned before I've had subs of all kinds. It's the mental over the physical but I do have preferences.

Gender preference: Cis female.

What you should do: read and snoop and learn everything on my profile about me. Poke around. And if you like how I make you feel and you think you are this person for me send me a chat. I'll go through the verifications and requirements and we can get started. Take your time

If UK In person/sub:

I'm much more careful and restrictive about this given our current health crisis climate my own baggage and so on. Lots and lots of conversation beforehand. Many more verifications.

In person sub would NON-sexual. There would be intimate and kind conversation, hugs possibly but no sex, not even kissing. Online talk can be just like the requirements in the above section prior but in person it would be more conversation body language and connection.

Location: Ideally not that far from London or from Oxford

Looking for: a slightly masochistic cis female sub/friend that has a thing for Daddy doms and has a slight pain kink. Age 20-35. Single. No littles no mediums. You can be attracted to cute language but that's it. No brattiness. Mentally healthy. Depression anxiety is okay (I have this too) but no complex mental health conditions. People who can clearly and comfortably say no are very important.

Once the lockdowns are over or eased we'll meet for coffee and talk. Mostly conversation. In person. Soft Dom things like having you kneel and stand up. Soft humiliation things. Hand holding. Walking in local parks. Very intense conservation. Things said to turn you on and make you shy.

If I feel comfortable and that my limits will be respected we will start with slapping. I will be slapping you soft then hard. Maybe graduate towards butt spanking or paddling. We would meet, have coffee go for a walk, find a disabled toilets or ideally if you had a empty place somewhere where I would feed your pain kinks. Something like we go to yours have tea and catch up during the time I'm there and when we're sufficiently comfortable and you're ready I will slap you, as much as you want but we'd start slow at first.

Sometimes it might just be as simple as having you bent over my knee in a chair your skirt up, leggings or trousers or whatever still on but me paddling or slapping your arse red raw.

Don't expect sex don't expect kissing, have control over yourself even if you lose yourself in the joy of the punishment and don't push my boundaries about sex.

Aftercare afterwards ofcourse. Either you lotion your arse or we get some frozen peas or something and you sit on them and we discuss how that felt for us both, and how were both getting on.

Don't expect choking or spitting down your throat, don't expect me to do half the fantasy stuff I write to fulfill the urges of my subs.

Non sexual dominance is at the limit of my irl comfort zone. I'm very serious about this.

Don't treat it as a challenge I'm not looking for anything other than online Daddy Dom/sub connection or offline non sexual dominance but intimate

Body type preference: slim build. Petite butt. If you have a big booty I'm going to have to slap your arse a lot harder and I don't want to hurt my hand lol.

Gender preference: Heterosexual/bicurious cis female.

What you should do: read and snoop on my profile then contact me. I expect more verifications and requirements on this and am happy ofcourse to build up from written to voice notes to clips and eventually voice and or video calls. Then I'm person meet up somewhere safe and comfortable and has sufficient footfall that you and me both okay. Meeting anyone online in real life is difficult because you aren't sure how they'll be or you're worried if they'll like you or if you'll like them. There's also safety and security issues too. I want to remove all the anxiety of that. If you have a friend that you want as like a safety thing come with the friend. This is more of a longer term thing. Don't come into it expecting anything more than company. But the idea is to build towards non sexual dominance moments together. If I feel I have to stop I'll stop and you should do the same.

Example ideal (life is rarely ideal so let's say this is a goal to shoot for):

You contact me and you fit the requirements. We do the verifications and talk, we explore what we want and don't want. We connect and have scenes online in terms of sexting and communication. We get more comfortable and move to voice notes and then voice calls. Then video calls where were discussing things (I think this point onwards would be nerve wracking for me so that's why I really would like someone that can follow boundaries and can say no clearly and easily .) And then meet up with a chaperone If you want. Work towards in person. Start with slaps. Having you sit and stand, getting you used to being fed pain within a safe situation. Maybe we start with you slapping yourself before I slap you. We always have moments and time to give you and me outs.

Eventually in time we graduate to you being spanked.

During the dom-sub aspects of the session you call me Daddy and I call you whatever nickname we decide for you. The rest of the aspects we use our nicknames or names. We have app contact that expresses our comfortability as well.

When we're not in a scene or moment we just talk like friends, it's as much a learning experience for me as it would be for you. Life is not just a science it's an art. We can have the paints but we don't know how they will mix

Where there might be setbacks and bumps. But that's the fun of it. We put the right ingredients in and hope we have fun regardless of whatever is made.

As this is a wall of writing, to let me know you've actually read this tome , when you contact me say the word lemon.

Safety privacy security consent all very important. If you feel like to rush things please don't contact me. If you feel this is way too much, please don't contact me.

I'm just looking for a way I can comfortably connect to a sub irl and fit within the constraints I have.

That was a wall of writing. Read me and have a think. Work with what your deepest ethical desires are and your feelings and what's important to you

And reach out and contact me if you feel we could have some fun together x