What are some of the better options for a toy that can be controlled by not just my phone or remote, but someone else. Even someone half the world away? I know "what's the best massage toy" has been asked a million times, I've done some minor research, but I'm curious about a decent toy my partner can control. For fun :0

Also, I'd love to finish hands free with a normal dildo, which I almost did but my arm cramped up last minute, so I couldn't. Any good positions for that, or is it legit whatever makes me leak the most?

I've heard that finishing a few times hands free means it's just as easier the next time. So I'm hoping a good massager helps me get to the point I can finish from someone railing me, or me railing myself. Ik there's easier ways....like...ya know...just keep using the massager, but it's sorta a turn on when me and my partner can finish together, without having to worry about touching it.

Thanks for any comments in advance!