I recommend you install a bidet and learn how to use it. Both of you! That took me about two years to get the hygiene diligence and process sorted.

I think it is tremendously beneficial to be friends with the part of you that most people manage to avoid, in denial, for their entire lives. Our gut has its own brain, and it needs to have a relationship with the other one.

“Cleanliness is next to Godliness”. Soon you will learn how clean it gets when you practice proper self-care. Keep up with the dietary fiber, and chocolate messes should not be a problem. And that, IMHO, is the biggest cognitive, emotional, and cultural barrier to this exploration for most.

I recommend Toto. They are far more affordable than they used to be.