So I've been a solo player for a long time. Not so much fingers (curse you tiny arms), but massages and dildos.

I tend to not have any problems and it's extremely pleasurable, I haven't achieved the hfo yet but I'm getting close.

My wife last has started to consent to playing with me and last night we tried for the 3rd time. I cleaned with a douche, used a lube shooter for plenty of lube up there and popped a plug in to start.

She lubed up a gloved finger and went in, initially no problems, felt great, I'm leaking precum life is good, she moved onto 2 fingers after a little while.

Then it got sore, like really sore in there, we kept applying lube (rule 1), but no matter how much lube was applied it still felt sore and burned around the entrance. We tried swapping to a small dildo, but same story.

Any advice on what could've happened here? Was more lube needed, or maybe some water was left in from the douche? There was no bleeding, just soreness.

I want to work us up to Pegging and I'd hate to stop a session due to something silly like not enough lube and me getting over sore.

Many thanks in advance for the help!