First time tonight my wife tried massaging my prostate, am I doing this right!?

Ok. So after literally an hour of her rubbing my cock and gooning me out; I then rubbed on her and licked her till she came. So we had talked about prostate massages. We gave it a go. We decided on gloves and coconut oil. Ah coconut oil… how I love you so! The coconut oil was very nice and slippery. But we were cracking up laughing a lot 🤣 first I said just start by rubbing the rim before you go in so it might relax me. It did, relax me…she went in, not relaxed! not relaxed! Whoa! (Que the Opera singer here!). Now that digit on her hand is searching for my prostate. She says, “is that it?” I says, “hold on… move a little upwards, go sideways, move a a a a do a little dance, make a little love, get down tonight 😳 But seriously folks. I’m not thinking she hit the spot. I mean it felt good but not gooooood. I’m thinking we’re not doing this right? There is a serious flaw somewhere in our methodology. I neeeeed some help or thoughts here.