Hello! I’m so happy to have found this sub.

I’m hoping you can give some advice on finding a male who:

1) Prematurely ejaculates 2) Is the Dominant / Top role during sex 3) Wants to cum often - not into being denied himself (at least for this relationship) 4) Is happy to enforce orgasm denial on me

For a little bit of background on me, if I were a guy, I 100% would have been a PE.

I’ve cum from riding rollercoasters with my crush next to me. The rumble of the car when a guy I liked drove us to a movie on our first date. You get the idea.

I had to work with a therapist for a while to get over some issues I had that cause my body to basically shut down the second a man actually touched me (think freeze response in fight, flight or freeze). However, once I did, it was off to the races.

As a woman, it was celebrated more or less because I could multi. It was normal for me to cum 3-4 times in the 5-6 minutes my ex-husband and I would have sex…with zero foreplay for me ahead of time.

But personally, I found it embarrassing. At that point, even if the sex was really bad it did not matter - I was cumming anyway. It definitely made things awkward on more than one occasion.

Like many people who finish fast, I found myself drawn to edging and orgasm denial. It’s taken a few years, but I have learned how to get better at holding off (many of the same tricks guys do, but also avoiding stimulating the actually sensitive spots - like the clit and g-spot).

So of course, now I want to kind of go the other way, and find a play partner who cums early, often, and is enthusiastic about me not cumming - after all, if I needed to cum that badly, clearly I would have finished by the time he did.

It’s kind of like a competition? Except I don’t want to switch for it. I want the guy to sometimes make it impossible for me, either to cum or not cum. When I don’t, I want him to encourage me to edge when he's not with me, so that I have a better chance next time. When I do, I want him to tut-tut me for being such a slut for his cock. That sort of no-win yet always winning dynamic.

There are a few other spins I want to take while exploring different facets of what is, effectively, my own female PE. But one I would love to do would be with a man who has PE.

So my questions are:

• Have there ever been periods in your life when using your premature status to Dom/Top a woman has been something you were interested in? Or have you always preferred either vanilla or the sub role?

• If so, how did your thought process work? Was it about a sense of your masculinity? Or about a unfairness/entitlement kink? Was is primarily a bdsm/power exchange thing?

• Would you have answered a local ad looking for someone with PE? Or would that have been off putting? If not, how would you have most likely been found?

Thanks so much for reading and answering my questions!

I’m hoping that with some information and advice that I’ll be more successful screening people out and identifying those who might be a good fit. Thanks for helping me out!