Hey guys,

Long time listener, first time caller.

Dealt with the bullshit that is PE for far too long without really trying to overcome it.

Going to share my journey here. Follow along if you want to.

Will try create a format and stick to it.

36, fairly fit, married to a smoking hot wife for 10yrs and also want to start swinging/ENM - so I I'm serious about this journey.

Here goes...

Day 1

It's been 12 days since we had sex. Wife was away on a trip. During that time I masterbated a lot. No porn. Each session would be 20min to 2hrs with the focus of staying far below the PONR.

Time since last ejaculation - 2 days Stress levels - normal Energy levels - normal Time of sex - 10pm Length - 60s

We skipped foreplay for some reason. She says she just wanted me in her because it's been so long. She wasn't properly wet yet so it hurt a bit going in. Felt very good, like I can do this for ages.

My thought process - just enjoy her and relax.

About a minute in she starts to moan as she is riding and the moan sets me off. I pull out to try stop and sortve stop the ejaculation letting out only a drop.

We aren't on BC so she tells me to get the penis sleeve. I'm still hard so I quickly get it and put it on.

She resumes riding position and we go for another 2min or so until I ejaculate again this time fully.

I turn her around and carry on in missionary for a minute or so but now I'm limp and she's raw/sensitive. So we stop.

Only counting the first minute because after that it was damage control.

Current status: It's 2 days later and we both sore/sensitive from the incident. Both feel stupid for skipping foreplay and not using lube.

Where did it go wrong:

dry = more friction = quicker busting

Her moaning triggers my excited levels to skyrocket...need to figure this out.

Her on top is not my best position as I have less control.

What I'm trying next:

I bought delay cream. Similar to lidocaine but quicker acting. Going to rub it on my glands 15min before sex next time.

I got a script for a Cialis generic. Started taking 5mg daily today. I have no issues with erections but going to if this helps. Hopefully it makes my erections even better and my round 2 performance better.

Will update after my next session with the wife.

The goal is 10min of PIV within 30 days. Ambitious I know but keen to give it go.