How can I please a girl during sex without penetration?

I am meeting a girl in the coming days and it's highly likely sex will happen.

1. Unfortunately I have developed hypertonic pelvic floor which results in me having erectile dysfunction sometimes.

2. I also have premature ejaculation issue. So even if i don't get erection issues I am gonna be done in a few pumps. Especially since we won't be using a condom(she prefers birth control over condoms).

Given my two issues ie erectile dysfunctional and premature ejaculation I am looking for ways to satisfy the girl without penetration.

I cam try oral but I have never done it in the past. I can't take cialis because I currently take 6g larginine daily with pycnogenol