Good morning. I need help. I’m scott and I’m 50 and have been with my spouse since 2000 and we have 2 girls, 12 & 14. As with any marriage we’ve had our ups and downs. About 4 months ago my wife admitted to me she’s been engaged in an ongoing affair with an old high school friend she met online. It started during covid and casually then moved to meeting in person and then intimacy and she now says they are in love and or another’s soul mates. She’s indicated she no longer loves me that way and wants a life with him.

This man is also married, has 5 kids apparently and has not told his wife about his affair. My wife told me as she felt she could not hide it and she wanted to give me the chance to move on.

The plan between my wife and this man was to not tell her spouses about the affair until our kids are out of high school. My wife felt she couldn’t hide the information that long and pretend to have a relationship with me for the next four years. This man that she’s with does not want to divulge his infidelity to his wife for at least a couple years so three of his five children can get through high school. I suspect the reason he wants to do this is to avoid as many years of child support as he can.

So I’ve begged and pleaded with my wife to stay, to intern to counseling and work on our marriage and she’s unwilling. She does not make a lot of money and while her new lover supposedly wants to be with her he is not ready to move on yet so both my wife and I are remaining in our marital house together and coparenting our children . She and I could be here for quite some time.

I am just asking for prayers and guidance because every day is difficult on my heart here. I just want my wife back I want to show her that I love her and I wanna continue our life together and I’m hoping that God will soften her heart and bring her back to me. I’m also asking for God‘s guidance because I’ve been so sad and depressed every day within the past four months that I find it difficult to breathe let alone function properly on a daily basis.

Please pray for me.