~long rambling post incoming (i have a lot of feelings lmao oop)~

so a lot of posts lately have been of women posting in the main sex/relationship subs after being assaulted. only to be told that they didn't communicate enough, or "OMG I WOULD LOVE THIS but idk abt u tho"

with that being said, people will always voice their asinine opinions like word vomit but that doesn't make them valid.

men have always been open about their propensity for sexual violence against women. but they're repackaging it as "just fantasies" or "kinks". but why is it considered completely okay & normal to even fantasize abt abusing someone during sex? (bc as we know, its abuse, no matter what they say or how they try to spin it) they get off on hurting & dehumanizing women, that's it.

kink-shaming is harmless but they are committing actual harm. "don't yuck someone's yum!!" but like. why are we expected & forced to tip-toe around a vile, odious interest when they're perpetrating the actual endless violence?

the concept of a "safeword" is enraging for reasons i cannot describe...like why is sex so brutal that a fucking tapout is required wtf. consent is also being obliterated bc it doesn't give someone a free pass or make whatever happens okay. ppl being worn down or boundaries being pushed happens all the time. coercion happens all the time.

not to sound cold and harsh but it seems like we gotta protect ourselves and stick together. men certainly aren't (& never have) protected us anyway. how many men will take the side of another man over a woman, no matter the circumstance or situation? sadly, this also applies to women as well. think of heidi fleiss or any madame. women on OF promoting their bullshit codes are quite literally selling other women (mostly young girls) out.

and this "kink" shit has also infiltrated wlw relationships, too. i see it on here all the time now and it's depressing.

guys on here will openly defend any means to an orgasm. rape on tape doesn't matter to them because they only care about 2 seconds of pleasure over another human being...look at what happened in korea with men posting pictures of their female relatives in telegram chats so other men can make AI porn. we are so gone as a society, there doesn't seem to be any turning back.

the line of rational thought and absolute insanity is a very fine one that is often obliterated in a single solitary bound.