Hey brothers. I recently got married after being a virgin for 20 years. Before my marriage I went a whole year without porn and I didn't desire it in the least. However, when I got married, my wife began to draw away from sexual activity. This happens often, sometimes for 3-5 days at once, with vain promises of having sexual activity. Because of the anticipation and false sayings, I found myself watching pornography again. I initially blamed it all in my wife, but whether it's her fault or not, I want to figure out what myself can do and take responsibility. The reason I'm making this post on this subreddit is because Paul mentions that unmarried people (divorced or widowed people, not "never married") should marry so that they don't burn. So the Bible shows there's a clear new level of burning that comes after having sexual intercourse for the first time. In all honesty I'm trying to navigate it. I'm no longer putting trust in my wife to help me; I am looking to see what I can do where I am right now. The fight is different from when I was a virgin. When I watch that stuff it's not really like I even want to do it, I just feel like my body is inclined to it since I'm getting used to being told I will have sex and then not having it. Please offer advice or personal stories. Only serious responses please. And don't be rude 😒, I'm here for help, not arguments