Howdy I’m 26(m) years old and wondering about how I can find someone to join the family I’m building. I have a partner 25(f) as is and I’ve struggled with the idea of instinct it feels like of if non-monogamy is right for me. With having family members practicing non-monogamy without having a healthy relationship and household.

We have tried dating apps but I don’t think that’s the way to meet someone properly. Any ideas or thoughts? Any success stories?

My partner and I have been together since literally middle school and this is a topic we’ve discussed for at least 8 years now and she’s grown more comfortable within herself around the subject and topic. She’s even encouraged exploring as of late, mentioning her own desire to have experiences with a woman as well.

However, I don’t want to be in a rush out of excitement to find someone. I believe that in my past experiences that has caused more problems. I’m actively and consciously looking for someone who I can work towards marriage (polygyny) with that’ll fit into what we have (family and children) and wants to build.

She herself is bi-curious/sexual but has had suppressed feelings and we’ve tried dating with someone else in the past but we had complications occur. But we are both feeling open to it again and taking it much slower than before.

I’m just not sure how to open up myself to explain the situation and beliefs that comes with it. Being that it’s not a common thing to out right practice where I am. It’s not something that’s common where I am.

“How do you as a couple get out there to find what works for you both?” “How did you find your people? Whether you were a couple that found someone or someone who was an incoming partner, how did the experiences work and is their any any advise you can give?

Might be the real questions at hand.

Just to reiterate we’re not out looking for things like flings and intimate experiences. We’re looking to expand our family and build something healthy, good, and spiritually oriented working towards marriage or a cohesive and harmonious relationship and lifestyle in non-monogamy.

I hope this makes sense to someone and I’d love some advice from the experienced folks if possible or anyone that could relate. Thank you!