I was seeing this guy long distance, we immediately had an amazing connection and vibe. We would FaceTime and talk for hours, and talk about our future and dreams. He came to see me recently (2hr drive) and stayed with me for 3 days. And had a lot of fun being, around each other, dinners, movies, the kisses were amazing and we even hooked up a few times. A few days after he went home I felt like he was distant, and confronted him about it. He told me that I was bigger than he expected. He then played victim and accused me of photoshopping my photos and “swindling” him. He said I was dishonest and catfished him and I cornered him into sleeping with me? He made it clear by lashing out and insulting me that he didn’t want to be with me because I’m not his “preference” and I weigh more than he’s attracted too. He said I ruined his fantasies, and excepted me to be under 160 pounds. The kept going on and on about how “he wants to be able to go jogging with his girlfriend and how I mind fucked him and was dishonest. I’m literally shaking writing this I’m so hurt. I never kept my weight from him at all, nor did i "photoshop" myself to look skinnier. I always eat healthy (pescatarian) and have been losing weight monthly. I literally have a gym in my building and get in there every week, which we’ve talked about being gym partners. And am shocked by everything he was saying. especially after telling him I have gained weight since being battling lupus. But he told me he liked bigger girls. And I had no idea there was a weight requirement to date him. I'm just completely shattered and trying to heal from this experience. Because it feels blindsiding and painful. I’ve never dated someone whose feelings for me were conditional on my weight. I wish I could say I can forget about him but it still feels hard to move completely on, I feel so dumb for still thinking about him or having feelings. Was it all a lie?