Is it that men don’t like us because we’re plus sized or something else?

When I was 23, I met someone. We clicked right off of the bat, and although we met online on the apps, we found out that our family went way back. When we met I was at my heaviest, at the start of my weight loss journey. We went on a few dates where it was obvious that there was incredible chemistry between us. I could tell that he was, aside from really into my personality, attracted to me. This was the first time that I put myself out there to find love, and it was very foreign to me. He asked me to be his girlfriend after a month of frequent dates, and then we didn’t sleep together until our 1 month anniversary, I wanted to do things differently. Sure enough, he stuck through it, and that assured me that his love for me was real. I was pretty heavy into diet and exercising, but he always wanted to go out to eat. When I wouldn’t order a salad, he’d make fun of me in an affectionate manner. “Oh you look so cute eating that burger” and then proceed to take a horrible candid photo of me eating the burger? Causing me not to want to eat comfortably around him. This sent me into hyper mode in my weight loss, I’d lose about ten pounds a month. About 6 months later, I moved a bit further out than I was when we initially met, not too far, but he didn’t have a car, and his part time job as a drive thru fast food attendant didn’t support a car purchase for him. It got a little rocky when we couldn’t see each other as much, And when I’d go see him and surprise him with his favorite thing to drink he’d lash out on me about how he felt guilty that I could do that for him but he couldn’t for me. I internalized this all as my fault and would apologize like an idiot. Eventually during this sixth month, he attempted to break up with me because he said he was falling in love with me and couldn’t commit to being in love with someone who looked like me, remember I’m 60 lbs down at this point. I begged him to stay, promising to lose more, and he did and I did. Then he became vegan, said he couldn’t be with me if I wasnt. I adjusted every time to the different ways he wanted to control me, we stayed together for 5 years until he finally left me, after we’d moved in together and gotten a dog, after I uplifted him tremendously. After I lost 75 lbs and looked like a completely different person.

So what was it? Was it that I was fat?