We know Reddit recommends communities in our feeds, and as I scrolled through my feed today, I came across a video about a woman whose date unmatched with her on Bumble and left their coffee date because of her body. Her face looked like a thin person's face, but her body was plus-size. This alone didn't upset me because I'm numb to incidents like this since they are so common for plus-size women. Rather, certain comments bothered me more than the video. Of course, some of the comments that stung were, "she went from an 8 to a 2 real fast", and, "if she lost some weight, she'd be a 10." However, those aren't the ones that bothered me the most. Instead, comments such as, "I'd still let her suck it", "fat girls give the best head", and any comments that suggested fat girls are easy because they need to make up for being fat are what frustrated me. Those comments angered me the most. I despise that stereotype. I hate the idea that I need to do extra so that a guy will go out with me even though fat. I feel worse about it because I'm into BDSM, and I don't want people to get the wrong idea about my interest in it. I'm not into BDSM so that guys will tolerate or like me more. I'm not easier because I'm kinky either. Another point is that because of the stereotype, I make it a point to refrain from having sex until I've established a clear relationship with someone so that I'm not their dirty little secret. It just sucks to feel like I can't just have sex if I wanted to. I can't shake off the stereotype, and live my life. Also, it's heartbreaking to know that other plus-size women feel like they need to do more to be seen as worthy of having sex. I've rarely heard other plus-size people talk about this stereotype, so I'm interested to hear how others feel about this.