I’m a 25(F), turning 26 in a couple of months, that is about 290-300 pounds, size 3X-4X. I have as much romantic experience as a brick wall. I feel like a lot of plus size people are on the same boat as me, so that is very comforting, but I have a little bit of a dilemma. Growing, up, I was never chased/pursued by any guys - I was always the fat girl and the biggest girl of the grade. I have never had a boyfriend till this day - in all I lack a lot of romantic experience! I have never even held a guy’s hand romantically before, never had my first kiss, and never even been on a “good” date, and of course never have had seggsy time. I have been out with about 4 guys in my life time, all one time first dates, they were alright - but nothing pursued further.

I feel like I’m behind at my age as a majority of my friends are in serious relationships. Some of them have had multiple boyfriends, multiple different dates, and a shit load of romantic experience compared to me. Some of my friends are legit moving in with their baes, and I know I’m not supposed to compare myself, but I can’t help but feel jealous/envious? Like how come I’ve been destined to not have any romantic experience no matter how hard I try - I feel like I know the answer to this. As a 25 year old, I feel like people have at least held hands with a man but I don’t even have that so I lowkey/highkey feel like a loser. Some people my age have kids - so I’m like wtf?

I’m lowkey sick of being the fat virgin in my group and life, and I’ve been considering just having a casual hook up to lose the v-card. I know it’s not really the biggest deal of life to be a virgin, but I feel like I’m at a point that’s like I don’t really want to be a 30 year old virgin. I also occasionally get h0rny and during those times, I’m like damn wish I had someone to have seggsy time with. Of course, it would be ideal for me if I lost my v-card to someone I was dating, but at this point I’m not sure how long I will be waiting for this.

I’ve been talking to this guy for a little bit of time - I think he’s cute! This guy is very straightforward and is clear that he wants to have seggsy time with me and very vulgar with it too, like very vulgar! I told him I’m a big girl and sent him my insta so he is fully aware I am fat and he says he does not mind. He lives in a city 3 hours away from me and he’s asking me to drive up to that city to hook up. He says he will pay for the accommodation, my gas, food, etc. - what a deal! He works as an engineer so he travels out of city a lot so he is only in his home city for like a couple days so he wants me to drive up there. He also knows I’m a virgin - so that’s a pro and this did not scare him away. He wanted to meet up this coming weekend since last year in December. He somewhat ghosted me since Dec. 31/2022, but hit me up recently because that weekend is coming up soon. So he is asking if I still wanted to hook up? I’m sort of tempted to just take the opportunity, but at the same time should I drive 3 hours for some pp? I rarely find cute guys in my city that like me so that’s why I’m a little bit more tempted to go. Also my bestie is willing to come with me, haha. I’m just concerned that this guy will see me and will be shocked about how big I am. I’m fairly confident in my body, but like I’m about to be BUTT NEKKID in front of a stranger? Like what do I doooo and I never even kithed a man before!!!

Any advice? Any tips and tricks to losing v-card? Anybody with similar stories? Is this worth it? Should I just YOLO it?

PS. I have since lost my v card on March 10, 2023. Hahahah. So 👍👍👍 That gent broke my heart into a million pieces 👍👍👍👍