Hi all,

In December 2023 I caught my husband messaging someone in this group.

His username was Revenue_Expert. He had sent someone a message along the lines of “35M, need my balls drained, free until 7pm” (I was working until 7pm that day). There was no reply to the message—unsure if the person just never replied back, or if my husband deleted it.

I read the message back to my husband while we were in the car. After I freaked out and threatened to leave him, he lied to my face for a week, saying that his phone was “hacked” and he would “never do this to me.” After I told his best friend what happened, he finally confessed. He claims he was bored/lonely and nothing physical ever happened. I have a high sex drive so he gets head/laid often and we don’t have kids.

I considered leaving right after it happened, but I didn’t want to make an emotional/irrational decision. I posted on here shortly after it happened and most of the feedback I got was “dump his ass” “wanna have revenge sex?” or “is he gay/bi?”

It’s been a year. I still have trust issues, we argue constantly, and he is not interested in therapy. I love him so fucking much and I’m not interested in revenge. I guess I am really just looking for advice/insight going forward. I don’t want to leave, but I don’t want to be in an unhappy or unhealthy marriage.

If you’ve been in a similar situation, what would/did you do? If you have any messages from Revenue_Expert, please DM me a screenshot (he deleted the account, not sure if the username would still show).

Thanks for reading 🙃