This will be my last post about finding someone serious. If you manage to get through this long read and still find me interesting, do send me a message and shoot your shot.

I’m 26 and I have never had a boyfriend before. Part of it can be attributed to me being a late bloomer, only putting myself out there two years ago. But a huge chunk, I believe, is because not a lot of people in the gay community are in it for the long run as most (including myself for a time), have only been chasing highs. Plus the market isn’t really huge for those who are comfortable with their expression as I am “halata”, so to speak.

I’ve tried online dating. In fact, I still am, despite genuinely believing it isn’t for me. After all, I have everything to gain and nothing to lose anyway. I particularly am not fond of the “collect and select” culture and talking to a lot of guys at once as I do not like sharing the attention. This is because once someone piques my interest, I keep my focus on them and get to know them exclusively in order to give the potential the possible shot to materialize.

As I am drafting this post, I am unsure with why I am even bothering, but I guess I just want to be able to tell the universe and myself that I at least tried, and that there’s nothing more that I could have done. Having said this, let me describe myself for those of you who have chosen to still keep on reading.

First, the basics. I stand at 5’9 with an average body type. I am truly a side and that’s how I would ideally prefer it. However, I am aware that my future partner has needs so of course, I would still be willing to do penetration. If such is the case, I can do both, also being a verse. I am very particular with self-presentation and I take great effort in fixing myself up; I know which clothes already work for me, and have both a dedicated skincare and grooming routine.

I am currently a post-graduate student on his way to completion. My spare time is filled with diverse hobbies such as watching anime, reading manga and manhwa, playing video games, listening to music, and practicing martial arts. I still have other interests, which you would eventually naturally discover over the course of us getting to know each other.

As a person, my approach to dating and relationships is a bit traditional. As mentioned earlier, I am not fond of the “collect and select” culture. You would know if you have piqued my interest as I am the type of person who expresses his emotions openly. I am very communicative. It will show because I will make it known, to the point that I will make sure that you will not have an ounce of doubt about my feelings towards you. After all, it would naturally show. As I’ve said, I am very expressive. Though be aware that no matter how this manifests, it wouldn’t be me love bombing you, but rather, it would be a show of my genuine interest.

I am a big time chatter/texter and a fast replier. I am also conversant end extremely engaging and can talk about any subject under the sun, moon, and stars. You wouldn’t have a hard time striking a conversation with me as I can talk about literally anything. Though do tread carefully as I am not fond of carrying one-sided interactions and I do not hesitate pulling out if the energy that I am giving is not being matched.

I am also comfortably out of the closet so meeting my friends, family, and even extended relatives would be on the table. In fact, these people would be thrilled to meet you, should things go well.

As for the type of guy I am looking for, I would not deny that looks indeed matter to me. But this would go to waste without having the substance to back it up.

I find myself attracted to guys who are at least my height or taller, quite masculine, polished and presentable, with good manners and etiquette. I value ambition as I dream of taking over the world someday with my man beside me, helping each other materialize our goals. After all, the end goals is to be partners for life in every possible regard.

I value someone who is also as expressive as me with their affection. As admittedly, I overthink a lot and can get quite insecure. I also value someone who could communicate his thoughts and feelings in a considerate manner, as I always feel the need to openly communicate about mine. This way, we can always have a civil discussion and resolve conflicts with minimum loss, damage, or hurt feelings.

He should also be out of the closet as I want to be as open about my love as much as possible.

Lastly, I value someone who embodies faith, loyalty, and commitment. Anything open or poly will never be an option for me. He should be mine as much as I am his. I would attribute the rest to our natural chemistry and dynamic as I recognize the fact that I cannot just simply ask for a “mail order man”. The rest would have to be worked on through a dynamic consisting of adjustments and compromise as most couples do.

Having stated all of these, and if you made it this far, might as well shoot your shot by sending me a brief introduction and let’s take things from there. We could also exchange photos and contact info, though I will be sending you my real ones as a gesture of good faith. Dummy accounts will not be tolerated.

Cheers!