This is not a post to find some lady who will only give me a few lines of dialogue before ghosting me. This time, I want to ask for insights from strangers because sometimes, strangers provide the best advice.

While I was scrolling through Facebook, on the "Suggested Friends" list, I saw this lady. I didn't know her at all, but I saw her photo and I thought she is beautiful. Three seconds later, I scrolled down because I have better things to do.

A few weeks later, a professional colleague of mine mentioned to me in a half-joking way that she wanted to set me up with her officemate. They weren't exactly close, but she kept telling about how awesome she is. Since I didn't even know who this person is, again I thought it's not worth thinking about. And she was half-joking, sort of. She did give me a name. And when I saw that "Suggested Friends" list again and that girl was there again, that's when it clicked to me: they are the same person.

Given what my professional colleague mentioned about her, I thought this girl was too good to be true. So per her recommendation, I thought I'd check her Facebook and Instagram profiles. And my goodness, this lady is amazing. She seems like the kind of person I want to know more of by a date. And as another point of coincidence, she and my colleague are working in a place where I used to work, which is also the place where I met the last woman I loved all those years ago. It has made me believe in destiny again - or the Law of Large Numbers, for the pragmatists out there.

I know where she works. My colleague seems alright with it. The signs are there. I at least want to meet her. But I feel uncomfortable because it feels like I'm forcing things to happen. And this lady doesn't know me, and to just meet her in such an inorganic way, then ask her out? It just doesn't feel right.

And this is my dilemma. I want to fully believe again, after all these years. This lady could be the one that brings the romantic side of me back from the dead, or at least a coma. Yet it's in my nature to conduct myself in a way that I consider to be honorable, when it comes to matters like this. Maybe I'm overthinking this. But only those who have never had that "second chance" (not with the same person) at this would understand.

So what do I do?