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Not so much a peeve, but i get a lot of second hand embarrassment when I see or hear people say this. I don’t understand this eerie obsession some people have with still looking like a teenager or someone in their early 20’s?
Not to mention, the people who proudly say this more often than not look their age. Maybe late 20’s if we are being generous. There’s nothing wrong with looking your age, especially if you take good care of yourself and look good at your age.
Now the actual peeve is when they try to say the younger generation “looks old”. Idk who they’re around? Almost every teenager i see irl and online looks like a teenager to me. Why do you have to dog out the younger generation to make yourself feel better?
"You look for your age"? I don't actually know what that means.
And now she can honestly say, to the people who guess she's in her mid-20s, that she "looks mid-30s to others"!
Thought maybe you meant look for as in "to search for."
As someone whom people consistently guess to be 10-15 years younger than his real age, I'd say it's become a pretty core part of my identity (just as being an old soul is, too). If it were self-delusion, that would be annoying, sure—and it sounds like that's what your post is about.
But there really are a lot of people whose actual ages are pretty shocking to find out. I remember I had a housemate once that I always assumed was in his mid 20s, and I didn't find out he was actually in his mid 40s till more than a year later.
Youth is a core part of our identity, as is social interaction, and the two overlap considerably. So I'm not surprised people obsess over it.
There are plenty of innocuous explanations too
Of course if they know you prefer not to receive a certain compliment, then they shouldn't force it on you—but without that knowledge being present, I'd hate to live in a world where people would err on the side of not giving a compliment (when it's sincerely meant as such)
The compliment has been thoroughly uplifting in my life, and I take it similarly to when people compliment my eyes—it's not something I do much to earn, and yet it's still uplifting nonetheless
They couldn't know you don't find it to be a massive compliment. I'm saddened to know that something that bothers you is a regular occurrence for you. But I'd also be saddened to think that people in general would stop saying this, when it's such a life-giving compliment to others.
This is part of why I've removed "it makes me feel" language from my vocabulary. If we experience honesty in the public sphere, then how we feel about it is on us.
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When someone has me guess their age, I give an honest answer, but I frame it as, "Well, if I worked in casting for Hollywood, I'd probably cast you in this age range…"