Central emotions: Serenity

Guiding needs: Personal growth, meaning and transcendence

Core skill: Listen to your feelings

Ego state: Healthy Adult

Characteristics:

The Wise Queen belongs to the upper part of the spectrum, which is connected with spirituality and deeper understanding of the world. Being at ease with the Wise Queen facilitates the integration of emotionality and rationality by means of emotional intelligence and intuition.

Description

The Wise Queen finds it natural to adopt an observer’s perspective on things and get beyond the self-centered and self-evident aspects of life. Having this bird’s eye view on things, she has a great capacity of analyzing the world. Funny enough, her insights usually lead her to acknowledge and accept how little we as people know about existence and that most things that we state as truths are mere conventions.

Skills to level up

• Being aware of the complexity of the human being

The easiest way to recognize that you are in contact with your Wise Queen is by the feeling that there is something special about you. I am not talking about the egocentric perspective that is characteristic of the Guardian. What makes the Wise Queen different is her capacity to see reality beyond appearances. She feels that investing a lot of effort into the mask of materiality (owning expensive things, possessing titles and a higher status status, getting the approval of others) Is Not It. There is something more than this level of achievement, which is beyond your understanding, but bugs you constantly. That is why, once you understand your Wise Queen you find it natural to invest in material values only to the extent that is absolutely necessary for the sake of your survival, comfort and of reaching your goals. You don’t think that they define you. You can accept the idea that you cannot fully grasp the mysteries of the human being, but you very well understand that there is much more to it than the appearances you are encouraged to keep up from an early age.

• The power to influence the world around

The Wise Queen cannot be satisfied with living the experiences created by others. To feel comfortable, this part of yourself needs to see that it can leave a trace on the world. She finds it difficult to be a mere follower. She needs to be given the space to innovate and optimize whatever she has to do. Sticking to unnecessary rules is felt as a suffocating and limiting experience. Therefore, she quickly loses interest when put in repetitive situations and either changes the rules of that game or moves on to another, more flexible environment. She cannot find her inner peace unless she creates something both captivating and meaningful. For this, she needs to find a cause to believe in (this is her link to the Architect), and afterwards she can dedicate herself fully and create something relevant for the community she lives in, not only for the individual itself.

• Intuition, emotional intelligence and leadership going hand in hand

The Wise Queen has the capacity to make decisions even in ambiguous situations. She actually enjoys these challenges, seeing them as opportunities to innovate and create new realities. Intuition, self-determination and emotional intelligence create the right setting for evolution, and the Wise Queen in the one character that gives us the intrinsic motivation for self-actualization. A Wise Queen knows when to listen to her gut feeling and how to act on it. She thinks for herself and acts on her own. She does not need others to show her the way. Moreover she has made peace even with her dark side, and has the courage to be true to herself and others. Leaders that are an inspiration for the world usually have this side well represented in their personality. Therefore, getting to know and master your Wise Queen can help you unlock your leadership and self-actualization potential.

Watch out for these

• Getting absorbed in a world of ideas idea

For a Wise Queen it is easy to think ideas through, make plans and create routes of actions. Unfortunately, a Wise Queen alone finds it hard to put these ideas into practice. To implement her projects, she needs the support of the most practical of the characters, the Guardian. Finding a way to negotiate with the Guardian and bringing him on her side is the best way for a Wise Queen to start applying her vision.

• Not understanding her whole capacity

Unless you become aware of this side within yourself, responsible for intuition and higher awareness, you can only feel that something is not right in your life. You most probably let yourself carried away in the tasks of daily life and not really understand why you are not as satisfied as others with what you have and do. You judge yourself as whimsical, hard to please and peculiar. Simply acknowledging that you have this side quite developed, but insufficiently acknowledged brings a lot of relief and unleashes a part of your potential. When you finally understand where this unease comes from, you can calm down, gather your resources and start designing a life plan that is in better accordance with your real self. You will then learn how to also master your Wise Queen, but this is easier once you are on the right track.

• Detaching too much from material values

There is a risk for an unbalanced Wise Queen to get lost in the idea of a metaphysical world and stop investing in the material one. The consequence of this tendency is that the whole energy and capacity that she possesses remain unused and neither the individual, nor the community benefit from them. This is one of the most a gifted side that a human being possesses. Once discovered, this enables you to understand that you have a certain role in the world and that this can impact the course of humanity. The Wise Queen’s mission goes hand in hand with that of the Architect, the part that is able to identify and formulate and express the personal meaning and purpose.