I've been around kink a while, at least long enough to know what works for me. The strongest connections I've made were not predicated on sex. It was there, always looming in the background, but the in-between conversations established an ongoing excitement. If sex is the foundation, chemistry is the artful styling.

I'm a bit irreverent. Friends say they are never sure what I am going to say, which is glowing praise. Even if I have moments of being deeply unserious, I value assertiveness in my everyday life. I like that I'm strong, fit, and decent looking. I wouldn't call myself an egomaniac, but I have a good thing going on. Having that center makes it easy to feel comfortable with myself and comfortable behind the wheel. But I don't always want to be in control; sometimes it's nice not having to think, turning off my brain and letting someone else lead.

My primary kinks are humiliation based. I crave the adrenaline of shame and embarrassment because it is raw and vulnerable. The thing is, when I submit, I dive in, and am always looking to push things further and further. But it takes a special person to bring it out of me.

What I'm looking for: A woman who can make me feel submissive will be able to make me do almost anything. Confidence and beauty. That's the recipe. By now, you know I am into petite women; that could mean tiny women with a little extra or the thin and tall types. The common denominator is often small breasts, which I go crazy for. I'm not here to judge anyone's body; in fact, I am easy to please, so if you fit that description at all, I am likely into it.

What I am into mentally: I don't believe in boxes, but there are trends. I like musicians and artsy types; nerdy, quiet bookworms; loud, girly brats. If your personality stands out, in all likelihood I'll be into it. That being said, a sufficiently beautiful woman with a touch of "knows she's got it going on" will make me absolutely melt.

On a personal level, I'm a writer and am very into fitness. I mess around in photoshop and love dogs. I'd say I'm pretty simple in what I want, but complicated in how I got here.

Anyway, that's enough rambling. If any of that caught your eye, shoot me a DM.