I've been around kink a while, at least long enough to know what works for me. The strongest connections I've made with subs were not predicated on sex. It was there, always looming in the background, but the in-between conversations established an ongoing excitement. If sex is the foundation, chemistry is the artful styling.

I'm a bit irreverent. Friends say they are never sure what I am going to say, which is glowing praise. Even if I have moments of being deeply unserious, that is not reflected in my approach to dominance.

I value assertiveness. I like that I'm strong, fit, and decent looking. I wouldn't call myself an egomaniac, but I have a good thing going on. Having that center makes it easy to feel comfortable with myself, and comfortable behind the wheel.

What I want in a sub: A woman who likes giving up control. Someone who likes showing off. Maybe you're a bit bossy in everyday life, not one to be walked on. When the lights go off, letting go of that is a release. A chance to let someone else call the shots. Have you ever had a man choose your outfits to wear? It sounds pedestrian, but simple acts that seldom warrant a second glance can be powerful tools for dominance when added up.

Physicality: I love petite women, to the point where it is almost a kink in and of itself. All interpretations of this are welcome. That could mean tiny women with a little extra or the thin and tall types. The common denominator is often small breasts, which I go crazy for.

Mental: I don't believe in boxes, but there are trends. I like musicians and artsy types; nerdy, quiet bookworms; loud, girly brats. If your personality stands out, in all likelihood I'll be into it.

Kinks: Here's a teaser. None of this is requisite. I like rough sex, spanking, humiliation/degradation, assigned tasks, giving praise, and orgasm control. I'm willing to entertain talking with switches, if you can make a good case.

As I mentioned, I am looking for an ongoing sub/dom relationship. It doesn't all have to happen off the bat. Let's chat and see if there's chemistry.

Talk soon.