TL:DR - Pennsylvania native seeks other Pennsylvania natives for friends-to-relationship.

Hi there!

I'm Chris, 28, and I currently work as a software engineer. In my spare time, I game a ton - PC, tabletop, you name it. I also design games, both as an intellectual exercise and because, in some cases, the game I want to play doesn't exist, so why not make it?

I'm also a huge, huge foodie - cooking is how I relieve anger and frustration, and usually you can hear the strains of Shostakovich's Op. 40 blaring through my speakers if I'm really going at it. I will happily feed you everything from cheesecake to goulash to nachos to steak.

I'm used to my own silence and doing things for myself, but having someone to lean on and be leant on in turn is sure something, let me tell you. To boil things down to basics, I'm looking for someone who has, at the very least, these two qualities: one, a constant desire to improve themselves, if not the drive - we all fall off the wagon sometimes; two, a constant curiosity, whether that's about the world around us or anything else - I ask tons of questions and not having someone else asking questions alongside me just feels weird.

That's something that's non-negotiable for me: please, please love to learn. Ask questions. Spur conversation. Nothing makes me smile more than a well-thought-out question. You could almost call them a love language, heh. In that vein, I love museums, aquariums and the like - especially if they have adult-oriented, interactive exhibits. Why should the kids have all the fun?

Speaking of kids, they're another non-negotiable - the lack of them, that is. I do not want kids in any way, shape or form (although, weirdly, I have a huge breeding kink...try to figure that one out...). I just want it to be me and my submissive and my dog Tony, living our best lives.

Some more about what I'm looking for, in bullet-point form:

• Someone who constantly wants to improve themselves, whether that's working out, learning a new skill, or just reading a new book. (I'm currently hunting for that next recommendation!)
• Someone who wants to get to know me almost as much as I know myself, and doesn't mind my learning them just as well.
• Someone who wouldn't mind being the lifestyle sub to my lifestyle Dom: someone I can nurture and build up and ensure they're being the best version of themselves they can be.
• Someone who doesn't mind being cherished - pet names at a minimum, plus anything else I can do to show them that they're loved, appreciated and cared about.
• Someone I can train so that just a text message with a command from me is enough to send her whole body tingling.
• Someone who's my dirty little slut, who likes to have little reminders under her clothes that she's mine. A butt plug one day. A remote controlled vibe another. One day entirely in nipple clamps. Bruises on her inner thighs from playtime the night before. Maybe a harness she's tied into before she can go out for the day.
• Someone who can kick my ass in the street but kneels at my feet instead. Someone who could overpower me, but won't because she'd rather give up that control.
• Someone who enjoys hiking (seriously, since I've gotten a dog, I average 10 miles a day) and bonfires, and is okay with at least giving fencing and/or paintball a try.
• Someone who has, if not a plan, then at least a bucket list that I can help cross things off of.

I would much appreciate if you were a service sub and potentially a brat - I very much prefer joie de vivre to just rote "yes, Sir"/"no, Sir" submission. I want you to serve me because you want to serve me. In terms of how I see kink and relationships, my sub is my responsibility, and I make decisions for her not only so that she can focus on loving me, but also so that she can become the best version of herself. Knowing that she trusts me to do what's best for her fulfills me, and makes me want to be the best version of myself, so that she has someone to look up to.

Bonus points if you're goth or follow the goth aesthetic.

Some dealbreakers:

• Smoking, either cigarettes or MJ - mostly because I hate the smell.
• The inability to hold a conversation. Getting to know someone's a two-way street, and if I find myself asking all the questions, I'll also find myself getting bored pretty quickly.
• Kids. I do not want kids in any way, shape or form.
• Too much distance: I don't drive (though I'm trying to change that) and I'd rather not force my partner to always be the one driving.

I promised myself when I sat down that I wouldn't write a novel, so I'm going to cut myself off now. Feel free to delve through my posting history, though.

If you like what you read, shoot me a message - I look forward to hearing from you!

Best, Chris