So the first time I went, I explained I have a very hard time urinating. Like I have to push to pee, and sometimes I’m not even able to. And how I always have to pee so much throughout the day. I said I’d been having the problem for years and had gone to a doctor before who did an ultrasound/urine test who told me nothing was wrong. Frustrated, and dealing with social anxiety I didn’t try going back for more tests. I also explained to him that I had gone to the hospital for severe abdomen and back pain..and that I’ve had bloody looking crystals in my urine (which def looks like stones), pain in groin ETC. The guy proceeded to tell me it was probably just my muscles and that I don’t need my kidneys or anything tested. I told him I thought maybe it could be stones or even something serious because a place I worked in most likely had asbestos or something because a ton of my coworkers were getting cancer and I was even living there. My coworker got bladder cancer. He finally was like “ok fine if you’re really THAT concerned we can run some tests.” I honestly never planned on going back to him because it took a lot to get him to budge and take me seriously. After I had a CT urogram it showed I had a mass in my kidney and “degeneration of osseous structures.” So I left a bad review about him not taking me seriously in the beginning. It was 2 months later that I finally had an appointment after that. I wanted it to be an I told you so honestly. I didn’t want to go back but I figured I’d already done enough with this specific urologist and going to another one would make things complicated..also my insurance only covers these urologists in that specific building for some reason. When I went for the follow up of the mass, it was a female urologist…she told me they didn’t even have the report, so I paid for nothing. She said, he can review the images right now though.” She came back and told me “it’s just an extrarenal pelvis….I don’t know why they said it was a mass” Then told me to go to a GI for the abdomen pain, to which I told her I already had with no legit help and that I can’t afford it because I’m broke. Her response, without even knowing me or my situation, said “you’re not broke.” I was shocked. I said “..ha, ok??” “…you know, my boyfriend is actually the only reason I could pay for this right now.” To which she didn’t apologize or anything for being such an unprofessional b*tch. Anyway she ordered a cystoscopy and by this point I thought “I’m going to ANYONE but this place no matter what!” I had the referral in my hand. The lady at the front desk asked for my papers because one of them was for someone else. I realized by the end that she took my damn referral! I called and asked for a referral many times and they never gave it to me. They finally told me THEY had the referral because I had an appointment with them and didn’t indicate giving it to me. Rearing on a month (close to appointment date) of being super busy and not being able to obtain the referral, I decided my health is too important and I can’t afford to waste more time waiting for an appointment. I went to the appointment at this urologist. The cystoscopy itself only took like less than a minute-not 5. My bladder did not look expanded in the test at all-you definitely couldn’t see in all the crevices where a possible legion or something could be. The guy (original urologist) came in and said “your bladder looks completely normal” without inspecting the whole thing. Then, as I am undressed..embarrassed, broke, and losing hours of work because of this appointment I literally waited an hour for, he proceeds to bitch me out over my bad review. Then at the end says “you should be more judicious about writing reviews next time.” Which is completely unprofessional. I feel like I paid money for something not done correctly, like he just wanted to rub it in my face that it was normal…and I honestly don’t want it done again especially considering these scans are apparently bad for you according to them. I asked if there are any other tests I could get done, he said no and to just go to a physical therapist because like he says, it’s my muscles. Reading about it, it sounds like a huge invasion on my mind and body….I am just so stressed out..what is the best course of action in this situation?