Its taken some time, she basically was passing off my sending as wanting to help her, as i do help her in setting goals and finances in other ways. But she picked up on it being arousing to me. after a few i asked 'am i a good boy' to which she laughed and would say yes. never picking up on anything. I finally broke down and told her i loved sending to her in this way , and said i did it with another woman once. that opened the door to her asking questions. it feels very very weird to me, and she was very concerned that i was hurting myself in some way, but i put her mind at ease in that way. We now basically talk as friends except for when i ask if i can drain, although she is realizing i tend to like to drain after she posts pics that are triggering.