For those who don’t know in the United States when you go to college you are given a consent to release form, when you fill this form out your transcripts become public information to anybody who wants them. if you refuse to sign it then if anybody needs your transcripts they have to go through you first this information is vital for understanding of this story

I personally chose not to sign this form because when I was in high school my mother would constantly be checking my grades for any anomalies and if she noticed anything different from when she last checked she would call me whether I was on the toilet, in rehearsal, or hanging out with friends and say something along the lines of “last time I checked your government grade was at an A, why is it at a B- now?” And this is legal because if you’re under 18 your parents have legal access to your grades in high school. And if I knew she had legal access to my college transcripts it would be about the same and I don’t need that.

I’m currently in the second semester of my freshman year and midterms are next week and once my first semester grades came out I decided that I didn’t want to tell my parents and I legally have the right to not give them a reason for why. But once the end of the semester rolled around and we went into J term which is when we only take a single class for the entire month of January, she would call me twice a day asking me what my grades are when she found out that she couldn’t get them herself. I was furious because I told her when I was signing up for my first semester classes that I chose not to sign the form and she said that it was fair.

I would keep lying to her and telling her that my grades aren’t out yet, but then one day I realized that I was only getting me so far so I told her that they were out and I gave her my GPA and my lowest grade but literally nothing else. When she found out that it was refusing to give her any more information she threatened to pull out my student loans.

I was really mad at her for saying that and before I knew it she also shut off my cell phone service and wiped my bank accounts clean! I was actually going through anxiety about her coming up here that I literally filed a complaint to Security and said that if they saw her vehicle they were told to escort her off campus but then a loophole rolled around.

Around the time the situation happened I got a case of athletes foot because our showers are gross, and because she took my money I couldn’t get treated and for those who don’t know if you don’t treat athletes foot for a very long time it can actually result in the need for an amputation of the feet. I never told her this once she figured out a way for us to communicate but I knew that it was enough for her to possibly be facing criminal charges because she’s affectively killing me at that point. I didn’t have the money to get treated and if she wasn’t going to give me the money even when I had to have a foot amputation I could’ve died!

Two days after she did this she called me and said that I was being ungrateful because I wouldn’t give her my grades which I agreed to keep as private information. She was also mad at me because I blocked her from social media to limit our communication with each other. While we were having this phone call she kept asking me what she was doing wrong because everybody was disagreeing with her actions and I told her you took my money over a petty reason, I don’t care if it was a legal wire transfer, in any other context what you did was illegal! and that was when I brought up the athletes foot!

The next day she gave back my money and apologized for going to far. I forgave her because I couldn’t be mad at her forever but she literally was giving me anxiety and was preventing me from getting treated of a serious infection.

We are on good terms and have decided to put the incident behind us, but I had to mention this because I almost failed a class because of this!