I’m 47 years old married, we started really young with children in our lives and we have an eight-year-old granddaughter do the math on that. I know what it’s like to struggle as a young family so when my daughter had her daughter and me seeming them struggle we (my wife and I) came up with this great idea to sell our house and buy a duplex. It helps them out financially because they don’t even pay anywhere near the going rate for rent and everything is included.

I get to see my granddaughter every day and sometimes she could be a handful. I was a hard ass with the kids growing up.We were young and even though I never hit the kids there was a lot of yelling. I’m not proud of it and with the grandkid I’m trying to guide my daughter and son in law best I can.

There is tons of examples of what I would do, but the latest which is really bothering me is they take away her iPad for weeks on end because she did something wrong that has nothing to do with her iPad. It might sound privileged , an eight-year-old with an iPad, but there are a ton of benefits. They do limit what she does on it so it’s not YouTube videos all day.

The latest is why her dad ran into Target and her and her mom sat in the car. She wanted to know why they couldn’t go in, kept asking and asking and finally boom punishment comes down.

She usually calls me on the weekends if her parents are still sleeping and we talk thru FaceTime until her parents say she can come up or she starts her day.

I looked up and mentioned it before that this kind of punishment doesn’t do any good. It will not teach her to listen or her saying I don’t want this to happen again so I will not do that.

Her father can be a real dick sometimes. He loves to micromanage her, hard to explain over text but it’s like dam just leave her be. She isn’t a robot or a dog sitting on command.

Sitting down talking to them will not do any good as I started I try. We are in a group chat and talk all day. When I find things I send it along so they can read and I’m worried if I do say something it will just snow ball into something like oh well she is busy she can’t go upstairs. All I can do I value the time we have together and try to coach her with helping her understand what not to do.

Being her grandfather aside she really is a good hearted kid with good values. They are not bad parents at all just sometimes irk the hell out of me. Thanks for listening