My son is 8. He is on meds that significantly help. He is in weekly therapy. He is in a self contained room at school because gen ed is too much for him.

We have been through hell the last year. I have tried being loving and understanding. Somewhat permissive because I was suddenly a single mom, doing this on my own.

His behavior lately is out of control. He was doing great in school and suddenly he has had an uptick in aggression at school. Nothing seemed to help. Understanding, talks, explaining, helping with coping skills, regulation. Finally, after he broke skin through s kevlar glove I broke. I took everything. No tv, no video games, nothing.

This made me realize my adhd kid has no idea how to entertain himself without tech. Which, I'll admit is my fault. So I have been focusing on giving him ideas how to stay entertained but not entertaining him.

Behavior will be better for awhile. He has enough great days he'll earn some tv, then more great days and i let him have an hour of video games. Every time he gets games back he completely backslides. Returns to the awful behavior.

I've extended the time it takes to earn the games back. He finally earned games back for the third time yesterday. Last night while everyone was sleeping he stole his sister's phone, texted all her friends "F U" and then proceeded to watch 4 hours of YouTube. (Youtube is not allowed at all)

The obvious answer is not to allow games right? But he loves gaming. And we are a gaming family. I game, his sister games. We have multiple gaming systems.

No one has any suggestions that help. Not his psych, not his therapist i am just at a loss. Maybe I do need to just cut games out completely. I just, am really struggling with that.

And i know that consequences don't work the same way for adhd kids, I just have no idea what else to do.

Honestly Idk if I am looking for advice or just ranting about being defeated.😞