Wife and I had our first in March. She’s got some intestinal issues that have made it hard to get her to eat or sleep for long periods of time but she’s a wonderful baby outside of that. I work 10 hours a day and then help with the night feedings so I run on a broken 6 hours of sleep maybe and I am trying to go to school part time. Much of this will change and I understand things will get easier but I am finally coming to a point where I am happy where things are and am fairly certain I don’t want another. She is insistent that we do so she has someone to grow up with like her and her siblings. I grew up an only child and have never wanted siblings. I’m not sure how to approach her about this.

Edit: thanks for all the responses so far everybody! Here is some added details. (This is my first Reddit post ever so please forgive me) My wife 26f and I 27m had originally agreed on two for years. Our relationship before children was virtually perfect and I felt like we were essentially in a phase where things could only get better everyday. We have been together for 9, married for 3. We have a nice home, decent jobs we like (though low wages), and family not too far away. When we had our daughter, I lost my job due to Covid and spent the next 6 months as a SAHD and it was AWFUL. I had no interaction with the outside world, and was struggling to be around my daughter because of the constant screaming/lack of sleep/vomiting/etc. I also have an auditory processing disorder (CAPD) that makes it hard for me to process loud noises so when she shrieks it’s like my whole body is on fire. Just found out about that a month ago and it explains a lot. I have struggled being a present father due to these struggles and I honestly couldn’t imagine having to go through this again in any capacity. (I don’t subscribe to the “the second one is always easier bs) My wife is very sure we are having another one and speaks in absolutes. The last time we talked I think I was afraid to really tell her how I felt because our marriage has suffered so much since we had our daughter that I didn’t want to make it worse. We haven’t been intimate since she was born and she doesn’t even really hold my hand much anymore. She has chalked a lot of it up to stress and pumping which is fair so I don’t ask anymore. I’m just not sure if counseling will be the way for us to find closure or if we will decide that WE don’t work. It’s very scary and I’m not sure how to approach her in a careful manner if I know I have to be very stalwart with my conviction not to have another.

Also, the only thing I have thought of that I might entertain is adoption of a child that is MUCH older than a newborn. So if anyone has experiences or stories to help shed some light on that, I would appreciate it.