My son is a preschooler with an ASD dx. Early intervention has been great from both medical and education, and he's progressed from being non-verbal to speaking in sentences. He has been fortunate with his physical development to never require PT, and both educators and doctors have agreed it was not a good fit based on his strengths during assessments over two years.

Fast forward to recent IEP meeting: A therapist began saying such strange things I wondered if she had the right child: That he was unable to bring his hands to midline and had severe hypotonia. He swims without assistive devices (with supervision). He drinks from a standard glass. He dresses himself (shirt and pants only). He walks around two to three miles daily between walking to the pool, walking to a corner shop for a snack. He climbs fearlessly, can carry a half gallon of milk, and the idea that he cannot even bring his hands to midline and has disabling muscle weakness is just strange. I made sure she was speaking about my son, and yes, she was. She demanded she stay at least as consult during the IEP because "he is so limited he will definitely need help still by kindergarten." I agree he needs help plus practice with his pre-writing skills, but frankly, what she was suggesting about my son implies a severe intellectual disability/brain injury.

I am not sure she is aware I am in healthcare, but it is pretty obvious to anyone who is and who has met and assessed my son she is lying. (He switched schools this year, and she works for the district. Many people have not met him.) There is no plausible reason she would believe anything she said. Last year, he became very distressed and would no longer go to school without crying some months after beginning to work with her. I did not attribute this to her, but based on her stories yesterday of his non-compliance (which 100% sounds like him by the description), I am now wondering.

She is consult only and will not be seeing him, but was to speak to us last month and just didn't reach out. I also didn't reach out to her, mostly because I'm not worried and think his teacher and other therapist are doing a good job of working on his pre-writing skills as much as they can with COVID19. I find her insistence he is both profoundly disabled and that she MUST see my child when he starts kindergarten, because he is SO limited, so strange when it doesn't align with everyone else's. She seems very pushy about seeing my son alone and otherwise disinterested. I worry I am overreacting, but I really don't want her alone with him, but am unsure how to articulate my fear or even sure exactly what my fear is.

TL;DR: Therapist insists my child is profoundly disabled and only interested in unsupervised time with him. No one else (general pediatrics, developmental pediatrics, teacher, SLP, family, friends) seems to agree. Am I overreacting?