I helped potty train my boyfriend’s 3 year old son. He seemed afraid to try at first, but with a few different methods, we finally got him potty trained... or so we thought. When COVID started happening, we really buckled down and now it’s been weeks since he’s had an accident at home. However, when he goes to daycare (both his dad and I are “essential workers”), he refuses to use the potty unless I’m with him (and even that’s a struggle) and so he has multiple “accidents” every day. When he goes to his mom’s house, he also refuses to use the potty and has more “accidents.” To add insult to injury, his mom then sends him back in a pull up... even though he only spends a few hours at a time with his mom, I definitely don’t think putting a pull up on him, which he will then use out of convenience, is helping. He has admitted to me that he wets himself on purpose while at school and his moms because he doesn’t want to use the toilet there...

How can we help him?? Any ideas are appreciated.