First off, she’s genuinely an amazing kid - smart, kind, responsible, hard working, loving, all the things. She moved about 2 weeks ago to campus. She’s been doing normal things - late night diner runs, a frat party, sporting events, hanging out in the dorms.

She called me last night crying. The night before she had sex with a boy down the hall and was anxious about it. She said she wanted to, didn’t feel pressured, he used a condom and checked on her the next day. It was her first time. I think there IS part of her that regrets it and that maybe she just did it to get it out of the way?

I talked to her about it, told her that while I don’t think your virginity is some tangible thing that you gift to some perfect person, I do hope she respects herself and her body enough to be discerning about who she’s with. She seems to think he’s a “good guy” but realistically does not know him at all. I’m 99% sure he’s just going to move on to the next girl and do the same. But I do acknowledge that he could be far more disrespectful in this situation.

I guess I don’t know what, if anything, I should “do”. I had a horrible relationship with my mom. I’m so beyond grateful that she trusts me enough to confide in me. But, damn. That’s my baby and now I get why my parents hated all my boyfriends.

How did anyone else handle their child’s first time? IS there even anything I should/could be doing?