Hi everyone. I’m trying to find some people, men especially, in the same situation as me. At 42yo now father of 2. First one is 5yo, second one now 4mo. After our first child was born, we had a few difficult months to adjust, when I struggled finding the right balance between taking my part in feeding baby, going back home from work earlier than usual etc… but eventually we found a good balance. Now with second child I’m helping a lot more. Sharing the feeds at night. Trying to ease my partner’s life as much as possible. But I feel that now all my partners attention and affection towards myself is gone. And that she’s got very little interest in the romantic side of our relationship. And I’m not necessarily talking about the sexual side of it. Just general affection. I’ve explained to her how I feel, and instead of her reassuring me, she confirmed that she wasn’t feeling much like giving me any affection at the moment and that she was struggling with her feelings towards me. And that talking about it was making it even more real, and in the end it increased that feeling of a wall between us. All I’m feeling now is that I am more a convenience in our relationship, rather than us being a team. I’m not sure if I should keep talking about it to her, she keeps saying that everything will be all right, but I can tell that the distance between us is there, and I keep thinking over and over about every little details, over thinking everything demonstrating me that something is gone between us.

Anyone experienced similar situation? Thanks all