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Iâm sure everyoneâs aware about the rise of homeschooling. I live in an area that itâs always been very popular. Traditionally, these families were more religious or had a child heavily involved in a travel sport. Now more than ever I hear people choosing to homeschool due to âmissing them too muchâ when they are at school and not wanting them âexposed to riff raffâ. Of course you hear about valid school shooting concerns but more often then not âindoctrinationâ concerns.
I recently read a book called Education Wars, it was about public schools being these great equalizers. That parents donât like when their kids develop opinions that challenge them or interact with non curated friends. How this idea of indoctrination is just used to scare Parents. Having a child be addressed as a name theyâd like is not indoctrination, itâs called being polite. Using correct terminology and learning about LGBTQ rights makes your more empathic not gay. That if we all banned together to solve these problems instead of pulling out our kids. We could enact real change.
If you only pick who yours kids are around how can you trust them to pick for themselves when youâre not holding their hand?
If the school day is too long away from them/too much time receiving instruction how will they handle the time commitments of adulthood?
I am convinced it has a lot to do with our society and social media. Creating fear based parenting. I do understand that times have changed but some of the new precautions feel irrational. (Anti vax/challenging phone rules at school to have constant access, crunchy diets to prevent cancer) EVERY post on IG is laced with comments about âknowing someone who (insert something tragic) from (vaccines/cancer/colored dye)â when in reality very little of these anecdotes are valid. We introduced life saving AED machines everyone long before Covid, heart defects are the most common birth defect. We have eradicated diseases with vaccines. Cancer mortality is the lowest itâs been. Science is on our side.
Itâs this weird mix between fear and performance. Going so hard on all the things for our kids that itâs missing the part where kids develop their own sense of self and ideas. Everything catering to the kid and their needs vs preparing them for the actual world. Where you donât always chose the time, who is there. Not everyone has a list of your preferences or cares.
Am I the only one?
And do you think socializing should be mandatory? How do you feel about the boarding schools and residential schools we forced on the indigenous?
Why is society so much more important than individual freedom of thought and choice?
What if I don't want to raise kids to be cogs in the big machine?
Your feelings are valid, however, if you were to actually make this the law, the end result of mandatory conformity sounds pretty distopian.
How do you feel about private religious schools? What about the residential schools we forced on the indigenous? Why do you think greater society has some sort of moral authority?
Isn't a bit arrogant to think that somehow you know what is better for my children than myself and their mother?
In any case, calling our curriculum "curated" instead of open ended exploration kinda shows how your perspective is limited.
Why do you say it's weird? What is so special about public school?
How do you feel about the way we forced western education on the indigenous children in the US, Canada, and Australia?
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/American_Indian_boarding_schools
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Canadian_Indian_residential_school_system
Why is that? Do you feel the same way about religious and private schools?
Yeah, I agree! I don't know why you think homeschooling is just only one on one all the time?
There are a few subjects where my kids watch video courses of other instructors, and they attend clubs and summer classes.
They've watched countless history documentaries, learned about government propaganda, corruption, how we treated the American Indians, the Vietnam war, manufacturering consent...
And we have an off grid homestead we are building up in the Catskills, so they have experience operating sawmills, backhoes, tractors, how to build a house from scratch...
I absolutely hated school as a kid, but I have always loved learning. Getting to homeschool my kids has been such a rewarding experience.
And my kids are partners in all this. They are welcome to go back to public school whenever they choose.
Why is it legal? Are you serious? Are you a parent?
It sounds like you live in an echo chamber thinking that somehow the K-12 public school system is the only way to learn.
Who is a certified expert on life? Sure, lots of experts in their narrow field, but take a step back. Who is an expert on actual living? The school administration? Hahaha.
I'm a contractor in NYC. I've worked in the homes of many school administrators as well as many corporate executives. Their families are all so disfunctional and neurotic, kids raised by nannies and screens while both parents chase careers...
Seriously, what makes someone an "expert", and why does that make them more qualified know what's best for my kids?
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Socializing is over rated... I'd rather have a few close friends than all sorts of shallow relationships