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I grew up in a non-denominational (Korean-American) Christian church culture in the 90's and 2000's. I grew up on Vacation Bible School, Chris Tomlin, David Crowder, and Hillsongs. I grew up attending retreats, lock-ins, and oikos small groups. My faith has authored the most meaningful and beautiful relationships, memories, and cultures in my life.
But as I grew up, my personal views and experiences in the real world and recent events have made me really question the theological, rational, emotional, and historical considerations of my Christian faith. There were too many inconsistencies and unanswerable questions that didn't make sense to me, and ultimately had me decide (in partnership with my wife) to not raise our (only/OAD) child within the Christian faith.
But... I'm a little sad that he won't experience the wonderful community of friends and support I grew up with, and the chance of those unique and beautiful cultures and memories those gave me the opportunities to experience.
For Korean-Americans in my generation- church was less about religion, but community. It gave us something to believe in as our parents struggled so hard, and gave them hope in something bigger than them, and for that, I'm grateful.
But, it's now that I've grown up, it's not for me and my own family.
We homeschool now, but even when they were in public school and my wife was on the PTA board it still wasn't much of a community.
I'm also talking community for the whole family, not just clubs for the kids... We have plenty of those...
Notice all the Jewish parents in this thread talking about it as an ethnicity, not a religion... I'm basically ready to go back to church for the same reasons
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Can you share some of those ways to find community?
I'm a former christian, with a 10 and 12yo... They know about my parents beliefs and how to be respectful, and also why we don't believe. We've watched Cosmos and other great documentaries with them, etc
But everything OP is saying is right... There honestly isn't anything like the community I grew up with for atheist families.
We are planning on moving away from NYC to a small town a few hours away in the next year or so, and honestly we have considered joining a church just to have a group to get involved with.