So a little bit of background so you understand everything. We have been divorced for a few years now. She has 100% custody, lives in Utah with my children, I live in Texas. Because of my condition I have to live in a nursing home, so obviously I can’t raise kids here. But she doesn’t keep them from me, they visit a few times a year, they have their own phones, and they text me and call me all the time.

So my oldest (15M) has decided he wants to start streaming on twitch and making YouTube videos. I found out about it, and I followed him on both platforms to show my support. I know getting followers is important. He doesn’t have a niche yet, he posts what you would expect a 15-year-old to post. His YouTube channel is mainly him riding a bike, I got him a GoPro for his birthday. And it looks like on his twitch channel, he just plays five nights at Freddy’s. But I do keep an eye on it just to make sure it’s not anything that would be concerning. He’s a good kid and I trust him.

However, he recently told me that he hasn’t told his mom about it. He said he wants to get a few more followers first. I’m pretty sure she knows about the YouTube channel, just not the twitch. He hasn’t done anything secret worthy, I just think he wants to be a bit more popular with it. And a while his mom and I still do talk about parenting stuff, we don’t talk all the time. Mainly just a few times a year. And I haven’t mentioned this to her, yet, per his request. I don’t want to break his trust with me. I would immediately tell her if he starts doing stuff like saying racist things, lots of obscenities, objectifying women, etc. Should I tell his mother, and how would I go about doing it without destroying his trusting me? Her discipline style can get a bit strict at times, so he might be scared of that. She has a habit of taking things away when they mess up.