I have a 5 year old son who was diagnosed with autism at 2. He was young but we knew something was off with him. He is very high functioning. At 4 he was diagnosed with ADHD, ODD, and OCD. He turned 5 in December and I know it’s a normal thing for kids to hit, but I can’t take it anymore he hits me and it breaks my heart and I know most of it comes from him being frustrated or overwhelmed and over stimulated but I seriously can not do the hitting anymore. I’ve tried to explain to him that it’s not okay behavior, I’ve tried taking things, I’ve tried grounding him, I’ve tried making him understand it is not okay. Just tonight I was getting him to clean his room and it was fine and then I had to keep reminding him to stay focused and to clean. I tried to make it a game to get it done but he just got distracted. I tried to direct him by saying let’s pick up all the big legos first. It went fine I left cause I needed to move some stuff out of the hallway and told him I’d be back. Well when I got back and he wasn’t cleaning I told him we needed to get it done or he would not be able to go outside to build a snowman tomorrow, well he got upset about the snowman and hit me. Then his dad comes up stairs and overheard the conversation with my son about why we can’t hit. He asked what’s going on so I told him and he talks to our son and so on says the same thing to him. Then afterwards tells me you can’t force him to do things he doesn’t want to do or that I shouldn’t force him to clean his room. I’m losing my mind. My husband works 4 days a week and makes great money. And when he’s home does he help with the house work no does he help me with getting hour son to do things he needs to do sometimes. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like I’m failing as a mother and mh husband let’s our son get away with everything and goes in and plays the good parent when I’ve been the one to discipline. I’m overwhelmed, over stimulated, and stressed. I don’t know what to do anymore I can’t talk to my husband because if I do he will think I’m trying to start a fight and I’m not I want us to be on the same page, but I don’t know what else to do with my son. My husbands tells me almost every time I discipline our son that I am overreacting with discipline. I seriously just don’t know what to do anymore.