I met my current girlfriend in 2017, (I am highly empathic and sometimes can see aura. Training within wiccan tradition and some personal exploration with no guidance) she has a blinding presence the likes of which I had never encountered before. Just being around her calms the turbulence in my head and brings peace to my soul. However, there seems to be a malevolent amorphic darkness of a presence overshadowing her brilliance, and it is not at all happy on my calming influence on her life. She used to be sexually active with multiple partners, now it's just me. She used to fight regularly with people she felt had wronged her, even stabbing her ex husband and all of the boyfriends she previously was with, I've never been stabbed. She used to do all kinds of drugs, now it's mainly only weed, with talk of even dropping that. Since I've been in her life, her children have commented that they wish I had met their mother way sooner and are quick to say the positive influence I've had in their mother's life.

All this to say that this darkness is not happy that she's trying to calm down and switch up to a life walking more on the side of the light. It causes arguments to bubble up from seemingly nowhere about the randomest nothing that shouldn't even qualify for an argument. And because of my empathic nature, I pick up on it's anger and her anxiety and ramp up into a cycle that ends with me slamming the door on the way out because I know I have to leave or things will continue to escalate, usually saying a bunch of things I don't really feel or mean to. I know how the darkness works as this happens pretty cyclically every 2 or 3 months, and can usually see it coming, but somehow always get caught up in an unwanted fight. After she has a chance to calm herself, she always falls into a depression, often sleeping for several days without eating, lots of apologizing, and almost craving to be held by me.

At night, when all the lights are out, I feel another presence in the room and intense pressure from the farthest corner of the room. I have seen hand-sized spider-like shadows crawling along the ceiling and walls. Her grandson has conversations with her mother "Nana's mommy" about the "bad man" and he always points to the farthest corner and refuses to go near it at night. We've changed rooms twice and it always takes up residence in the corner farthest from her side of the bed. TicTok's reality ripple always picks up something in that corner.

How do I get rid of it? This time it has led to her incarceration and I am outside in the laundry room in hopes that it doesn't realize I plot against it. I am tired of it affecting her in such a negative way and want to see her shine like I know she should, even if it costs me everything. Please, can someone help with the naming of this darkness or methods to drive it away or to bind it or even to just make it passive for a time?