It is basically what the title reads, though there’s quite a bit more backstory that I won’t elaborate on and will try to focus on the main details...

Short backstory: dated this boy for around 8ish months, his mom and I were extremely close and she was like a second mom to me. She was also there for me when my grandmothers passed away. In 2011 she herself passed away after a battle with cancer. Of course we had drifted from speaking as often over the years after her son and I split (in 2007), but I was still heartbroken over the loss of her, and all I had ever wanted was for her to meet my (now) husband. Every time I’m in the area, I try to leave sunflowers at her graveside and have a short chat with her. During one of my visits my husband came with me and I mentally said “to her”, “This is my husband. I wish you could have met him, I think you would have really liked him.”

I’ll preface the rest of this by saying, I am known to have pretty damn vivid dreams, but NOTHING like this experience.

Present day, a few weeks ago: she comes to me in my dream, and it’s like it used to be... I’d randomly show up at her house and we’d chat about life and catch up. We’re just chatting away and I think to myself (in my dream), “Is this like the dream I had of my other friend? Does she also not realize she’s gone?” [this will be a story for another post one day] And it’s like she read my mind because she just kind of giggles and goes, “Oh honey, no, I know I’m gone. I just wanted to check in and see how you were doing. Also, I met your husband; I like him, he’s sweet and a funny guy, you’re wonderful together.” I immediately start crying in my dream and in my sleep and woke up with tears still in my eyes and shaking near uncontrollably.

Now... her son and I hardly ever speak (bad breakup is an understatement). Minus the occasional happy holiday or happy birthday, that’s basically as far as conversation goes. Would you even bother saying anything to him? I feel like he’d just think me crazy, but I also feel like she was kind of wanting me to check in on him at the same time. But maybe he doesn’t see her in dreams? And I’d feel awful about that. I’ve kept my mouth shut so far, but should I bother trying to reach out?

((And on the off chance he may be reading this... your hints are sunflowers 🌻, which I also got tattooed for her, and her famous chili recipe.))

(Also posted here because I feel like this was a pretty paranormal/lucid dream, will remove if needed or move to another sub.)