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Hi! I just wanted to ask for your opinion if you were in my shoes. Whatever your opinions will help me decide which is the best one to take since for me, this is a life decision. Would you a.) choose to continue studying after stopping 1 year, in a different program just so you can finish college in no certain year? or b.) Go to another country to work so you can help your family financially and earn so you can study?
Here's a little context: I'm a 23 yo 3rd year medtech undergrad who happens to stop for a year since my family cannot sustain my study since I study at a private school, which it is really devastating to me. I'm an average student, I fail quite some times but I always manage to pass. My family chose this course for me to take cuz they want to have a doctor in the family, but I really wanted to take multimedia or masscom. Anyways, during my 3rd year, I failed a lot of my courses and its the first time I failed during my college years. I have 36 units and I only passed 13 of it. I lost my interest in studying when I needed to work part time so I can have money for transportation, lunch and some materials needed at school since my family cannot provide it for me anymore. Aside from working part time, I am the one who buys and cooks, clean and tutor my siblings after school so my last college experience was really draining. So I worked different freelance and assisting jobs when I stopped to make my year at least productive. I plan to go back to college on sy 2025-2026 but my mom and lola are pushing me to continue my study now. I am excited at first but theey always give me false hope. I asked where they will be getting the money for my tuition, and they only answer is "meron lang". No assurance. I dont want to experience not being able to take exams because we still have balance on my tuition, that I need to work so I can have money for myself and take so much responsibility at home, all if the things that loses my focus on studying. But they still push me where it led to breaking my relationship with them. They never listened. Now my cousin wanted me to work with her (she lives at a different country) telling me that I can earn enough there to sustain my needs for studying again but it may take at max of 3 years. I wanted to take this since I will be having no problem going and living there as I work. My mom and lola is not in favor of this. Not becausw they're worried of my first time flying and living alone without them, but its because they wanted me to finish school. I wanted to study, but we are not financially stable. They kept promising me tgat we have but they cant tell me where they will be getting the money for me to study. Mind you I also have a sibling who is also a college now. I wanted to go to my cousin so I can help myself and my family too. If you were on my shoes, what will you do?
thanks yall for listening as it is also my rant na hahah hugs sa ating mga panganay. Y'all dont know how happy I am to see and be ina support group for panganays.
Edit: Naginquire yung mother ko sa school and yung ishshift kong course will only take 2 years nalang for me to graduate. It's not my chosen course. Pinalandakan nya pa sakin na mga co workers ng mom ko is nagkakanda utang utang din daw para lang makapagtapos, wc for me, not very pleasing to hear.
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